The main reason I started my own business was to get away from bosses that treat employees like shit. It’s way too common in Israel and I’m sure it’s just as common all over the world. Some people got successful because they were good but some got there just because they were lucky. Till this day I meet delusional people thinking that they are better than their employees, and it makes me sick.

In the last few years, a new breed of delusional people has hit the market, the business coaches. There are some coaches that earned they reputation like Tony Robbins, Gary vee and Tim Ferriss. But there are way too many inexperienced people calling themselves coaches just because they took a 6-month course. One of my first coaches Yosi Krichelli said once that you can’t take someone to a place you haven’t been to yourself. That about sums it up.

But I’m not writing this post to disrespect anyone, quite the opposite. I’m writing this post for the employees having to deal with this inhuman treatment. Having to take abuse from someone with less experience than they have just because he has a piece of paper that tells him he’s completed a course.

You work hard enough, you should get some respect from you managers. The one thing that seems to escape everyone is that they need you but you don’t need them. I started an experiment the last two years. I wanted to know just how hard it was to get a new job. I found that when you know the rules of the game you control it. Instead of being interviewed but potential jobs I was doing the interviewing. How did I do it?

The rules

There is only one of you and thousands of them (jobs). So there’s no reason for you to allow them to pay you less than you deserve. There’s no reason that you should work in environments that are unbearable.

You can’t control how many jobs replay to your CV, but you can pick and choose from those offers. This is how I get my best results. Whether it’s work, clients, dating or anything else I put my mind to. Simply send a lot of requests (too much for me to handle), and filter candidates replying to those requests.

It’s simpler than it sounds. If I’m looking for a new customer, job or anything else I send thousands of applications. Just to get 10 to 30 responds and then I pick and choose the one that seems to be the best choice for me.

And probably the most important rule is, know what you want. If I’m looking for a new sales position I want to know what I’m dealing with. Do I call people who are interested in the product or just calling random people? Is it a product I would buy myself? HR’s will try to make it seem like you need this job more than they need you. But if you follow these rules you will finally see the truth. You’re in control.